Hurting People Hurt People

Pink Floyd’s “The Trial”

Good morning, The Worm, Your Honour,
The Crown will plainly show,
The prisoner who now stands before you,
Was caught red-handed showing feelings.
Showing feelings of an almost human nature.
This will not do.

We are always on trial! Doing the right thing means going against the current of what’s acceptable in today’s society. I know for fact my vindication will come but there are days when I just feel quite beaten up, like that little cartoon teacher man from the movie “The Wall”. He was being beaten by his controlling wife, and he in turn beat his students. How much truth was in that small visual sequence?

Our beaten souls we carry throughout life but what are we willing to do to heal them? Do we deny our scars or do we seek healing? Many persons simply ignore their wounds and keep opening the scar tissue through their own actions. A prime example: The father who beats his daughter; she in turn marries a man who beats on her and she accepts this. Sons born into this environment simply grow up thinking this to be acceptable behavior, carrying on the cycle of violence.

I know I am not bringing anything new to light but when will we take responsibility for our own healing? Why must we be a society blaming everyone else for our problems yet avoid accepting that we ourselves have the ability to change?

There is an analogy I have heard many times over the years; “hurting people hurt people”. Coming face to face with my own hurts was humbling but seeing the ways my hurting damaged those I loved was quite eye opening. My healing has come but not in a way I expected. Love walked in and it taught me to love those I’ve hurt and also those who have hurt me.

I made a choice. I laid down the proverbial beating stick in my own hand and began to hug those I cared about. This choice has changed my life and the lives of those around me.

Rom 12:9 “Don’t just pretend that you love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Stand on the side of the good.”

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